FAKE GEEK GUYS: A MESSAGE TO MEN ABOUT SEXUAL HARASSMENT
By Andy Khouri
“I think this woman is wrong about something on the Internet. Clearly my best course of action is to threaten her with rape.”
That’s crazy talk, right? So why does it happen all the time?
Honest question, dudes.
That women are harassed online is not news. That women in comics and the broader fandom cultures are harassed online is not news. That these women are routinely transmitted anonymous messages describing graphic sexual violence perpetrated upon them for transgressions as grave as not liking a thing… that is actually news to me, and it’s probably news to a lot of you guys reading this.
So what do we do about it?
You know I’ve been trying to leave my two cents out of most of the feminist stuff I reblog since you know, I didn’t really earn those two cents.
But, I am so frustrated by stuff like this as a man who enjoys comics. Khouri points out at the beginning of the article that he is pretty naive when it comes to the experiences of women in comics and I clearly am too, but I don’t understand how people, men or not-men can behave like this. As someone who likes comics, when people disagree with me, yes I will think they’re wrong, but you don’t convince someone say, that Man of Steel was a terrible movie by threatening to rape them. Like as an argument tactic, that doesn’t even make sense. All it’s going to do is take someone that could be part of your community and alienate them from your experience. Whatever your experience is, it’s probably shitty because you’re shit.
This wasn’t very well put together. I saw a little girl at the comic store yesterday. She was probably 10 and there were 3 20-something girls with her browsing the aisles and her dad and this girl just like flitted purposely between the DC and Marvel racks before presenting her father with a stack larger than mine and it just seems so stupid that people will tell her comics aren’t her space. I just came to comics a couple years ago, but I think this should be more that kid’s space than anyone’s.